When you start at High School you are 13 years old, this is an age where you are just starting to discover who you are as a person and what you like and don’t like so the relationships and friendships you make at this age are quite fragile. I know this is the case for many girls, I’m not entirely sure if this is the same for boys or not but it happens quite a lot among girls.

As you move through High School with these girls being your friends you begin to change and this can sometimes affect your friendships. Sometimes in friendships you grow together and build an even stronger friendship but sometimes you can grow apart and this is natural.

Just because you grow apart it doesn’t mean it is a bad thing. Growing apart from your friends can sometimes be a good thing because it opens you up to meeting new people that you didn’t necessarily consider as being your friend but it may mean that your interests and hobbies have changed and are better suited with different friends. Growing apart from friends is a natural occurrence and it doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you or your friend it just means that you and your friend have changed and this has meant that you have new interests and hobbies now. On the other hand it could be that you and your friend have grown as people but you have grown together and your friendship is stronger than ever.

All friendships are different and are built on different levels of interests and trust. It is natural among everyone to change between friends at least once in your life, it is very uncommon to have the same group of people as your friends for your whole life.

It is just necessary to remember that just because you have grown apart as being close friends like being in each other’s pocket it doesn’t mean you have to cut them out of your life entirely. They are still always going to hold a certain place in your heart and mind especially if you were friends for a long time. It is also important to remember that it is okay to let these people go if you no longer get on as well as you used to.

It is unhealthy for you to hang onto these friendships when they are no longer what they used to be. The worst kind of relationship of any kind is a toxic one, you want to be surrounding yourself with healthy, positive relationships instead. Just remember there is always going to be someone out there who has the same interests and hobbies as you and they are the kind of people you want to be friends with. There is no point hanging onto those friendships that aren’t the same as they used to be and are causing you distress.

Friendships should be carefree and easy they shouldn’t feel like work.



Nicole Ashby Pic 2Author: Nicole Ashby

Nicole Ashby is currently a Year 12 student at Ellesmere College in Leeston, New Zealand. She has always had an interest in writing in classes at school and in her free time. She enjoys writing about things that matter to people her age that they may not know much about or they want to broaden their knowledge on a certain subject. Nicole enjoys writing about things that matter to her and things that she thinks more people should be aware about. When she was 12 she was one of 5 who won a writing competition in Creme magazine about her experience in the earthquakes. She has written pieces for her local newsletter, The Ellesmere Echo, about school events and this year she has taken on the task of being the editor of her school magazine. She also has an interest for design and creating magazine covers and spreads. Nicole looks forward to expanding her writing and creating pieces for people to enjoy.


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