I personally love the topic, many people find out who they actually are when talking about gender and sexuality, making their lives a whole lot easier for them. But what is gender and sexuality?

Gender, not to be confused with sex, is more about the mental element rather than the physical element of life. Sex is the genitalia you were born with while gender is who you identify as. For example I was born with the female genitalia so at birth I was deemed a female, but mentally I identify myself as a male. Therefore my gender is male! More specifically “transgender male” but we will have a look at that term soon.

Sexuality is decided by what gender of person you are sexually attracted to. However, sometimes it doesn’t have to be sexually, this is called asexual which we will have a look at soon.

So that is what gender and sexuality means, but what comes under these terms? What type of different genders and sexualities are there?

The main sexualities that are frequently talked about are:

  • Heterosexual
  • Gay/Homosexual
  • Lesbian
  • Bisexual
  • Asexual

Heterosexual: a female is only attracted to males, and a male is only attracted to females.

Gay/Homosexual: a male is only attracted to males.

Lesbian: a female is only attracted to females.

Bisexual: a female or male is attracted to both males and females.

Asexual: any of the above (and more) sexualities but you do not feel any sexual attraction towards the gender, they only feel romantic feelings towards the gender.

The main genders that are frequently talked about are:

  • Cis
  • Transgender
  • Gender Fluid
  • Agender
  • Gender Queer

Cis: you identify with the gender you were given at birth.

Transgender: you identify with the opposite gender than the one you were given at birth.

Gender Fluid: you switch between both male and female depending on how you feel on the day.

Agender: you don’t conform to either gender.

Gender Queer: a stable mix between both female and male, they identify with both genders at the same time.

There are so many more genders and sexualities that I could talk about but then you would be here reading for hours.

A lot of people feel anxious and afraid when they discover they are not heterosexual or cisgender considering it’s not the society norm. But please never be scared to show the world who you are because there is nothing wrong with being different from the well-known normality. If you want to feel good with yourself then be true to yourself.

If you need help discovering who you are, you could talk to your doctor (or any doctor at that) or a counsellor at a mental health service.

Albion Haines 2Author: Albion Haines

My name is Albion Haines, I am a 16 year old transgender male who is studying NCEA level 2 at the wonderful tertiary school, Capital Training. I really enjoy writing fictional stories, the creativeness I can throw into them is so much fun and I have so many ideas for short stories and possible books. I specifically like writing the genres Sci-fi, Crime and Gay Literature. Lately however I have been trying my hand at writing news reports of current world wide events and movie/tv show reviews. I am quite invested in the LGBTQ+ community as I am a gay transmale who wants to inspire others to not fear being who they are. I love learning about who people are and how they got through the struggles of being apart of this community. It’s refreshing to know I’m not the only one who struggled, as bad as they may sound. Last but not least, I really love animals! I have a 2 year old black and white fluffy cat named Loki who I adore so much. I cherish animals to the point where I could possibly enjoy their company more than some human beings.


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